Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Time keeps on slippin'.....

Have you ever promised you would do something on a regular basis and then before you know it, the thing you've promised yourself you would do....has long been forgotten?  I kind of feel like that with this blog.  I started it as an outlet of sorts, then it turned into this need to keep in touch with family and friends...and now it seems like it is something I do just to pass the time (as if I need help with that?!).  Stress has been the word of the day in this household for the past couple of months.  Between TJ getting incredibly sick, Travis dealing with his MEB stuff, and my juggling school-motherhood-wifehood....it has reached DEFCON 1 in this house and everyone is braced for impact.  Prayer has been our go to tool to fix things, that and family back home.....but sometimes we need to pony up and deal with these problems ourselves.  Granted, God is right there with us but it is my belief that sometimes we are meant to go through some things and He is there in the background to make sure nothing truly heinous occurs.  

WITH THAT BEING SAID.....we are hopefully mere months away from Travis' medical retirement from the Army.  This is an exciting, scary, sad, happy, joyful, and terrifying time for us.  All we have known the last 6 years of our life is the Army way.  It will be so weird not to wash ACU's or PT's on a regular basis, strange that I won't have that fear of a looming deployment...not that I am complaining...because I remember all too well the feelings of uneasiness.  

TJ is also cruising around like crazy.  The kid can totally stand up on his own, he just gets freaked out if there is nothing to hold onto.  He is amazing to watch when other kids are around; he tries to hard to get right into the thick of it with them.  The boy will grow up to be an amazing man, that is for sure.  He loves people and has a bright personality that I PRAY will never fade.  I love TJ so much, it is such a blessing to watch him blossom into who he is as a person; his laughter melts my heart every time I hear it.

Travis and I are doing good; we have our ups and downs but we know that we love one another and as long as we communicate and take care of ourselves, we will be alright.  Married life is not easy.  I would like to know who said that you never have to work at being married?  If marriage was all sunshine and rainbows requiring no work, divorce wouldn't be such a popular reason to go to court.  Marriage requires effort from both husband and wife; you cannot expect everything to just work out on its own.  Remember those vows?  "For better or for worse."  Sometimes people jump ship when the going gets tough....they seem to forget that they said they would be there through thick and thin.  People in a marriage are always going through some sort of change, everyone is in a constant state of spiritual evolution (oxymoron anyone?), mental growth and maturity....so why do we get upset at one another when we notice that our partner is different?  I am a firm believer in fixing problems before they start, and they will start.  So go out there and get the help you need before you both decide to jump ship and leave a perfectly good vessel to its own devices....marriage is a beautiful thing and shouldn't be treated with such carelessness.  

OK, I am off my soapbox now.  I blog for myself too, ya know.  Don't think I like to give advice without speaking to myself as well.  

I am out for now....we are getting a new bed today and this mama bear is excited!!!

SJ